What if the real struggle isn't your situation, but your resistance to it?

I realized last night that I wasn't fully accepting my situation.

The busyness of everyday life has me focusing more on to-do lists, expectations about what others should be doing according to my plan (!), developing new ideas, and feeling frustrated about what hasn't happened yet.

I don't think I'm alone in that.

How often are we focused on tomorrow's results, wishes that don't come true, the hope that things will eventually get better, or the feeling that we should already be further along than we are?

I especially recognize that last one.

What strikes me is that many people have started confusing tension with responsibility. And responsibility quickly turns into control.

As if being in control helps us make better decisions. As if pressure is a requirement for progress.

But what if that very tension is what's keeping us stuck?

I wonder how much of our daily stress comes from constantly fighting where we are right now. The imperfections, the stressful moments, the uncertainty about the future, and the disappointments of the past.

What would happen if you stopped fighting where you are?

You don't have to like your current situation in order to accept it.

That's something many people overlook.

We think life has to make sense before we can embrace it. That our circumstances have to change before we can accept ourselves.

But maybe it works the other way around.

Maybe change doesn't start with working harder on the next step.

Maybe it starts with fully seeing where you are.

Without resistance.

Without judgment.

Without rushing ahead to tomorrow.

Because as long as we're fighting where we are, we spend a large part of our energy rejecting the present moment.

And that is exactly the energy we need to create something new.

Something happens in the body too.

Acceptance releases tension. And when tension decreases, you can settle more deeply into yourself. With a relaxed and grounded system, the day feels different.

You approach challenges with more ease.

You understand the person standing in your way a little better.

You become less irritated.

You trust what is coming a little more.

And often, because of that, you make better decisions.

Decisions that help you create a life that feels more like your own.

And this applies to me as well.

When I felt that sense of relaxation in my body last night and fully accepted where I am right now, I also had to be practical and realistic.

No matter how much I push or stress, the renovation isn't going to move much faster.

In fact, the harder I push, the greater the chance of setbacks and rushed decisions.

Sometimes a better solution doesn't come from holding more tightly to the original plan, but from making room for what is actually presenting itself.

Not from giving up.

Not from postponing.

But simply from acknowledging what is.

And that's where the surprise was for me.

This weekend, Lisé and I had already decided to make a change. We're both in the same situation, with renovations running behind schedule, walls still waiting to be painted, and boxes that still need unpacking.

That's why we decided to move the first retreat programme from July to September.

So the decision had already been made.

What felt like a step backwards at first revealed something else last night: I hadn't fully accepted the decision myself.

Part of me was still pushing.

Still hoping everything would move faster.

Still arguing with the reality of this moment.

And this morning, for the first time, I felt the space that came with letting that go.

Not because anything had changed. But because I had stopped fighting what was already there.

And that's what this whole story is about.

Sometimes we make a decision, but a part of us hasn't truly accepted it yet.

We change reality, while continuing to argue internally with what has already been decided. Maybe that costs more energy than the decision itself.

We're not postponing everything, though. We're far too excited for that.

That's why we're starting a special Summer Clarity Series. One in July and one in August.

Highly accessible. Very affordable. Very practicle.

And with the same level of attention and depth for whatever it is you're currently struggling with, feeling stuck in, or simply looking to gain more clarity about.

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