The window is narrowing. No more wobbling. Choose in alignment.
Last week I wrote about decentralised finance, not because money is the topic, but because freedom is.
The same freedom shows up in every area of life. If one part is out of alignment, the whole system starts to wobble or leak your energy. That is why I often write across different themes: leadership, finance, self-honesty, relationships, clarity.
They are not separate topics, they all influence your self-leadership
And if you are someone who feels the tension between the life you are living and the one that actually fits, then you already know this. You are the pivot.
How you choose, behave, spend, feel, relate, and perceive…it all shapes the direction you move in next.
This article speaks to that deeper layer, the part of you that is done wobbling and ready to stand in your own alignment. The time is now, the window is narrowing.
The window is narrowing. No more wobbling. Choose in alignment.
I feel we are living in pivotal times. Not because the world is changing — but because something in me no longer fits into the role I’m expected to play. The systems around me feel outdated, restrictive, and oddly parental. I’m given rules I never agreed to. Decisions are made on my behalf without my consent. I’m told what to think, how to behave, and even who I should see as an enemy — all shaped by systems that expect my compliance rather than my awareness
If you have been feeling a similar tension in your life, a quiet sense that something no longer fits, then these times ask for inner clarity and the ending of unconscious compliance.
Here are eight steps to feel into more deeply to see how and where you can anchor more into your own alignment.
Step 1: release old self limiting stories and beliefs
You have probably done some inner work. Now it is time to be crystal clear with yourself: no more room for self-dishonesty. Every false trait or limiting pattern needs to be released. That doesn’t mean another round of big trauma-healing work. No, now it means refinement: be aware of your thoughts, vibration and if you are at the right frequency.
Difference between vibration and frequency? Vibration is the music, it can be soft-loud-hard rock- classical. Frequency is the tuning: are you in tune with your authentic aligned self or out of tune. A person can be highly committed and passionate about their vision (high vibration), while their frequency is out of tune if their actions come from a controlling mind that follows greed rather than a truly aligned authentic self.
Be aware of self-pity and helplessness. There is no one or no situation to blame. Change your perspective to: everything I have created in my life shows me something about myself. So if you don’t like a situation, examine your role in it and how you can release your emotional attachment. For example: does lack of freedom stress you? Then feel where you are still expecting something or someone outside yourself to give you that desired freedom - the government, the lack of money, the relationship. Stop projecting your own stress, fear, anxiety or expectations outside yourself.
Step 2: detach emotionally from world events: don’t give it your energy.
Stop feeding the polarisation game as it is what is our biggest distraction. We all have opinions about world events, political decisions, environmental threats and so on. But let’s be honest: your opinion doesn’t change the world one millimeter. What changes the world is your frequency and your daily actions.
If we all stop feeding the news with our emotions (anxiety, outrage, judgements) and we all vibrate our authentic aligned self, we will make collectively different choices, and that will result in a different world.
Don’t fall for the trap your mind will throw at you: ‘that’s unrealistic so what difference can I make’. You cannot change the world tomorrow but you can change how you perceive it - and that is your inside job, your choice.
Emotional detachment is not being cold or selfish towards all the atrocities. You can, for example, demonstrate for peace if that is in alignment for you, but stay dilligent with your frequency. Demonstrate from your heart and not from fear or outrage.
Step 3: choose where you want to live
As a personal example: I have been a city girl until four yrs ago. I thought I desired the spark, the excitement, the convenience of culture, dining and meeting people. Until I noticed cities felt constricting, tiring and quite lonely. I didn’t make new friends easily if any. I hardly new my neighbours and when I went out, I often missed the spark I was hoping for.
Now, since I live in a small village, in the country side, hardly speaking the language, I feel more energised, creative, grounded ànd connected.
So choose for yourself what feels in alignment for you and be aware of what parameters that influence your decision: money, work, relations, convenience, too much hassle to move and so on.
If you are chosing from scarcity (‘I can’t lose my job so I have to stay) while you know it is not in alignment for you, then start to investigate this further. No need to jump into big decisions over night, but learn to feel what impact your environment has on your life and your frequency.
Step 4: be dilligent with your energy leakages in relationships
It all comes down to your honest frequency and our relationships have a big influence on daily fluctuations. So examine whether there are any draining leaks and what causes them.
Is the relationship still in alignment with you, or are you staying because of safety and comfort?
The core message here is: fix the leak or leave the relationship or more nuanced: be very conscious of whom you give your energy. We don’t have to end every energy draining-relationship, but becoming conscious of their influence will support you immensely. And be aware of what each relationship mirrors back to you, and take that with you in step one.
Step 5: Understanding a financial system, gives you ease and ability to choose
Money influences each of our lives. Whether you live in wealth or scarcity, it impacts you daily.
What are your trigger points? Where do you feel you make decisions based on financial security at the cost of your inner peace?
When you make financial decisions - as small as buying the newest phone or as big as staying stuck in your job for the secured income stream - out of convenience, scarcity, greed or external security, you are not living your aligned self.
If it feels contracting, it lowers your frequency.
If it feels expansive, it raises your frequency.
And…be practical as well. Make educated decisions and choose in alignment with your values.
Dive into the new financial system that is emerging. What choices can you make that support your alignment?
Step 6: re-examine what work means to you
Work plays a big role in our lives. What does it mean to you? To know whether your job gives you a true sense of belonging, fulfillment or meaning, feel into your expectations.
What do you expect in return? A secured paycheck? Confirmation of your talents and contribution? The need to be seen or to matter?
Would you do the same activities if you were not getting paid, not being confirmed and if no one acknowledged your efforts and energy?
What would you change to fill your days with activities that truly energise, inspire and fulfill you?
Once you gain a clearer picture, investigate what steps you can take to change things.
Step 7: choose your frequency conciously every second of the day
It sounds repetitive, but in the end it all comes down to your vibration combined with your aligned frequency. Keep your vibration high while you stay in tune with yourself.
As we haven’t learned to live like this, it will take effort, commitment and a conscious choice. Not just once a year during a retreat, not once a week in your yoga class, not once a day in your morning meditation, but every second. Or at least every hour to begin with.
Set an alarm or download, for example,. the Triple Flame app for repeated reminders to stop and re-align within.
Don’t make it too easy on yourself: stay aligned while in an argument, while watching the news, while you feel into big decisions, while with a challenging family member - and most of all, watch your thoughts and its inner narratives.
Step 8: heart aligned self-leadership:
All the steps above can feel selfish, and for some us it is needed to become more selfish at first after many years of following the path of other people - your government, your boss, your partner, or even the expactions of your parents. Now it is time to choose your path first.
If your trust your own path and become your authentic self, those who are within your frequency or feel the resonance, will feel (often unconsciously) invited to move with you.
That is the new leadership.
Does that mean they don’t have their own path to follow? They do - but we are not all leaders at once. Some still feel more comfortable following someone else’s lead until they feel their own alignment.
And if you have been reading this far, you are likely here to lead humanity into its next phase of evolution. That might sound grant, but what it actually means is bringing life back to simplicity.
So while the world will release itself from its outdated systems - which might take decades - many of us will build the new. None of us knows how our societies will look like once the old system has truly died.
Each of us will be take our steps: some are building new solutions, others are finding small like-hearted communities - and what we will all have in common is that the new way is leading life from our heart, with vision and being an inspiration to others.
